The Importance of SOCIAL SUPPORT and CURING CRABS…

CURING CRABS.  Mental-Health, Fitness, Diet and Seafood…

Ok, I feel quite guilty. If you landed on this page because you were honestly looking for STD advice on how to cure to crabs, sadly you have been deceived.  You will need to continue your search and/or seek the proper advice of a medical professional — which I am not.  Good luck!

Onward.  Bikini Body Mommy motivation time! Today I wanted to talk to you ladies about a very real social phenomenon, and the disastrous effects it can have on your mental-health, fitness, diet, and Bikini Body Mommy Transformation goals.  It’s called, “THE CRAB THEORY.”As with most of my posts, there is a little story behind this one.  But first the pictures …

A couple of years ago, shortly after my parents moved across the country to Maryland,  the kids and I flew back to visit them at their new home.  Having been born, raised, and lived in southern California my entire life, there was a whole list of things that I had never experienced — Crabbing was one of them!

Our visit was specifically timed towards the end of summer — Prime crabbing season in Maryland, and the weather was perfect.  Shortly after arriving, the kids were super anxious to have grandma take them out for their first “crabbing” experience.  Armed with a gigantic bucket, a net, some rope-twine, and about 10 pounds of chicken thighs — Down to the docks we went.

Both kids tied a long string of rope twine around a raw chicken thigh, and then slowly lowered the bait off the dock into the water.  Laying on their bellies, they looked over the edge and waited.  It only took seconds for the first gigantic blue crab to snatch the bait.  The kids quickly pulled up their line, and then tossed their crab into the big open bucket that we had brought along with us! SUCCESS.

Over the corse of an hour, the kids had successfully fished the crabs out of the water so fast, that they had nearly filled the entire bucket! This is when my son, after putting his latest catch into the bucket, anxiously looked at me and said, “We need to find something to put over the top of the bucket mommy…. the ‘c-waaabs’ are going to escape!”

Here’s where the story gets interesting…

I looked down at the bucket and quickly realized that every time one of the crabs tried to make an ambitious escape, several other crabs would methodically reach up, grab the attempted escapees legs, and pull him back down to the bottom of the bucket. It happened over and over again.  It was fascinating! You’d think that the crabs would realize that if one could escape, they could too!  But instead they were more interested in keeping their clan in the bucket!

It is amazing how closely this reflects human nature.

When someone does something to become more successful or to better themselves, whether it is starting to workout or trying to make a conscious effort to change their nutrition habits, often times other people will subconsciously try to drag that person back down to their level to keep them from succeeding.  After all, if that person succeeds how would it make everyone else who is fat, miserable, stuck-in-a-rut, and unhappy with themselves, look and feel?  Instead of joining in and making the same positive changes, it’s amazing how consistent the human response to self-improvement in others, seems to mimic the crabs mentality — to drag the person back down.

I’m sharing this story because it is my hope that you’ll find the analogy helpful during this important time when you’re trying to make dramatic positive changes in your life.  I hope that you’ll remember it the next time you go out to dinner with friends and everyone starts giving you a hard time about not ordering alcohol, or for not diving into the basket of bread… “Just have one drink!” they say.  I hope that you’ll remember it the next time you want to have an early night because you have to be up early the next morning to get your Bikini Body Mommy Challenge workout done, and your spouse pressures you into staying up late to eat popcorn and watch a movie with them… “Oh come on, you’ve been so good — you can miss one workout!”If you have ever tried to make a drastic change in your life, I can guarantee you have experienced situations like this, and that you will likely continue to experience many more. It’s human nature.  That being said — Awareness is the first step! Don’t let the crabs or the social pressure in your life, pull you down.  It can be disastrous to your success.  Here are some tips to help you manage them.

How to Rid Yourself of Crabs 101:

  • Who’s Ripping Off Your Legs? Surround yourself with people who will support you in your quest for transformation.
  • Be conscious of who you spend your time with. Try and surround yourself with ‘positive, can do people’ because Mindset is EVERYTHING.
  • Steer clear of Negative-Nancy’s. Negative thoughts can be disastrous to your progress.
  • Stiffen that upper lip lady – nobody said it was going to be easy, I PROMISE though it’ll be WORTH IT!
  • Take one day (heck — even one meal!) at a time, but keep your end goal in sight!
  • Find a motivator – whether it’s ME or a close friend.
  • Remember that this type of negativity often stems from jealousy. Don’t be too hard on those that are jealous of you because often times it’s subconscious, and they’re the ones who think you are amazing.
Final Thoughts … BEWARE OF THE CRABS IN YOUR LIFE, and even more importantly — DON’T [B]E ONE!xx,-B

If my story sounded familiar, I would love to hear your stories about the crabs in your life… leave a comment below :) 

Comments

  1. says

    The ultimate fear is not to become crabby, too. My husband lost a bunch of weight doing low carb and I feel like I bring him down, because I complain about him losing a lot of muscle mass… I really don’t know how to motivate him, besides making snarky, sarcastic remarks. lol

  2. says

    i quite enjoyed this! recently i have really been focusing on the positivity around me and trying to stay away from the negative. i recently read something on pintrest that is similar, it was a saying that went something like this: “i wont let you walk through my mind with your dirty feet” and that out look has really helped. thanks for posting!!

  3. says

    Great analogy….and YUM crabs..I too am from Maryland! It’s hard to stay on track for me..I work in an office where breakfast/lunch is ordered daily and remarks are made about me bringing my snacks/lunches. I am okay with the snide remarks..I am the only one who has not opted for gastric bypass in my office.

  4. says

    Wow what an inspiring post. I must say, your headline is AWESOME!! Sorrounding yourself around postive people is a great way to keep yourself motivated.

  5. Becky says

    Thank you for writing this! It is perfect and so true! I am pushing thru these workout and I do get discouraged but reading this was exactly what I needed to hear! You are truly an amazing Person! Thank you for helping all of us!

  6. Amanda says

    Wonderful article. I have Been known to be a crab! I’m hoping to remember this article and keep myself from being that person but to also keep myself aware of those I surround myself with. Thanks!!

  7. Vika says

    THANK YOU for the continued motivation. The struggle is real and you are absolutely RIGHT!! I’ve always thought that instant support would come when I chose to make positive changes for myself. I would have never imagined that some of the most detrimental comments and backlash would come from those close to me. However, pushing through the negativity to a point where the change in my body and being was visible, not only did that shut the doubt from people’s mouths, it had some asking for help and advice. So keep pushing people, you are more of an example of success through struggle than you know!!!

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  1. […] I know everyone says it, but it’s SO IMPORTANT that you have a positive support system through this process. It’s the sole reason that I created the BIKINI BODY MOMMY COMMUNITY, so find a friend. Social support is amazingly powerful and it doesn’t matter who it is as long they can motivate, inspire, and hold you accountable.  Social support is such an important factor that I wrote a detailed post covering the subject about a month ago, please make sure at the end of this post that you take a few minutes to read it HERE : CURING CRABS.  Mental-Health, Fitness, Diet and Seafood… […]

  2. […] MONDAY MOTIVATION TIME: By now, I know that you are beginning to feel… and more importantly feel some changes with your body — ISN’T IT EXCITING?!  In all of your excitement, you may even start to reach out to friends and family members to preach to BIKINI BODY MOMMY GOSPEL and share your excitement over all of the positive motivating changes you are making in your life.  GREAT RIGHT?! Well unfortunately,  sometimes the reactions can be less than supportive … if not downright negative.  I wrote a fantastic blog post on this subject, so PLEASE TAKE 5 MINUTES out of your morning to read it — YOU’LL BE HAPPY YOU DID!  Here is the link:  CURING CRABS… AND THE IMPORTANCE OF SOCIAL SUPORT http://bikinibodymommy.com/2012/11/socialsupportcuringcrabs.html […]

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